Friday 20 April 2018

Skin in the game

He is not easy to read at all, but at the same time he is so engrossing. And true. Nassim Nicholas Taleb and his latest book, 'Skin the Game' - just unbelievable and badly needed in today's time.

It is about how the world needs skin in the game. People that can benefit from something, need to also be able to lose. No upside without potential downside as well. Commentators... who just comment but are not involved and have nothing to lose - what to they add? Nothing. And what is their merit? Questionable. Stay away from them.

I love a story that he tells, about being in a TV talk show where some other journalists were commenting about a specific stock. When asked about this stock, Taleb refused to comment, his reason being that he neither had that stock in his wallet, neither did he have it on a short position (eg would benefit from it dropping) - so he couldn't really comment. Other commentators were shocked, as the common held belief is that you can comment about something if you have no relationship with it, since you have no interests. He defends the opposite. If you have a vested interest, you know a lot more about it. Your opinion has strength, as you have something to gain or to lose, you have skin in the game. You have taken a stand on it already, where you may lose or gain something. You are invested. While others with no participation, then for them their opinion is really easy to give - whatever may happen as a result of their opinion will in reality not impact them at all.

Taleb points out how the financial system has lacked skin the game in the last few years. Banks stand to gain from their loans to successful ventures. But if these ventures fail, very often the banks get saved by public entities like the state. That is not healthy at all. They only stand to gain, no risk of losing. That is unhealthy and leads to poor behaviors from the banks, and they are comfortable, always comfortable. And a system that allows for this, that is a weak system that can collapse - as indeed it is happening to the financial system, that has lost all credibility.

He reminds us how this was not the case. Hammurabi's law - an eye for an eye. Let's take a house builder. The law in Hammurabi's time was that if a house collapsed and killed the son of the owner of the house, then the person who built should also lose his/her son. An eye for an eye. So the builder is invested, he has skin in the game. He makes sure he builds to the best of his knowledge. And he can also demand and expect quality from his suppliers, who are also exposed to the same law. It is a virtuous system. Currently, today, architects are by and large more worried about impressing other architects or winning prizes. Often resulting in houses that are simply not best suited for what they're supposed to do. He gives the example of new trains on a NY line. Most commuters traditionally have to stand in rush hour, holding their coffees, that they usually would place near the windows, which had some flat places that would serve for this purpose. New trains were brought in - absolutely stunning and appealingly designed, lots of organic round shapes. But designed by people who knew nothing about the commute, probably had never done it themselves - so designed something not fit for purpose. Eg no space to put your coffee cup... Done and not well done.

This applies to so much. I have been doing central roles professionally - eg not market roles with clear P&L accountability, but more coordination and direction setting roles. You can definitely have skin in the game, take visible ownership and hold yourself accountable when big things go wrong. But it is also very easy to escape this and keep chugging along with no risk, easily deflecting bad occasions to others - the people in the markets, other functions, external conditions. And actually a lot of people thrive like this, and I have come across a few, like my old boss in the company that I've left. You produce stuff that looks good, but that in reality has no application, no one will ever use. But it looks good, and some senior people, removed from the front line, think it is great and praise it. And thus the game goes on. Nothing good comes out of it, rather than frustration for the people who are actually trying to make a difference and make things happen.

There is so much more to be said about the book. It is a huge inspiration to me and makes me think about everything that I do. I want skin in the game. I am willing to suffer for it. But also recognize how easy it is often to shy away from things, there are always easy excuses, other people or situations to blame. Always. And good excuses that people will buy. But that is not living. And you will not grow. You grow by exposing yourself.

In Taleb's views, entrepreneurs have skin in the game. They invest themselves, often their family's life savings (and credit) into something that may work or fail. 'Corporates' don't. They are part of a huge corporation... usually their actions do not yeld immediate effects, and certainly not dramatic ones that can lead to the demise of the organization, which is huge. In my old job, so so often marketers would be promoted because they created a beautiful campaign... which 1 year after they had left, proved to have zero impact in the market. But it looked great and they were rewarded for it, and moved on quickly. The ones afterward were left to pick up the spoils. There, in these situations, the secret to thrive is timing... do you join an organization that is already on the up and you benefit from it, even though you played no role in it... Not what I personally want to do.

I want to contribute. I think I was brought up like that. My sisters also have this. They are doers, they want to make stuff happen. I am often afraid of taking risks but am at my best creating something. Creating, be it a strategy, a product, something. Creators by nature have skin in the game - they are putting something that they made out into the world, and this exposing themselves to criticism - or praise - from others. To elation or rejection. Skin in the game. If you are just commenting, you have not a lot to lose. But you are also not living... you are standing on the sidelines and speaking, to whomever is listening (usually other bystanders)... while the doers do, suffer and thrive, live and progress.

If this appeals to you - do check out Taleb's book.

Hello again

Invested some time revisiting the posts I have place here over the years. So much richness, so many good insights. Reflection is the richness that makes us human, and I am thankful for having those thoughts captured here.

I have had some tough times in the last couple of years. Still in the mix right now of crazy, unsettled times. But I am thankful for good things in my life. Starting with my sister who has stuck with me through thick and thin and helped me get perspective. Who made me see that actually in some situations, I was ok. I was reacting humanly and well. We need these sounding boards, especially if they come from good people, with the heart in the right place.

Thank you.

I have learned a lot, a hell of a lot. It is completely true what I have written in the past to myself - that it is in times of great difficulty that we grow more. That we take more learnings and evolve more. It can be extremely difficult, but you will survive and come out stronger. Sometimes (often!) you may feel that you are not coming out, but you will. And stronger and better. And you will be thankful for the experience. I am not there yet, but for sure I am now much stronger than I was 1 year ago. Dramatically stronger. I've experienced a lot in the last 12 months, from break ups, changing company of 17 years and starting in a new company, culture and country. Living by myself again. Rebuilding some sort of life by myself. Being able to survive by myself, even doing the basics, from paying bills, grocery shopping and planning events for the weekend. Being human to my friends! Being there for them and recognizing that it is important to invest time in this. God, how often I have forgotten that in the past and how bad that is for me or for any human. We are built to be connected. We are built to live in society. By nature I am extremely independent and self reliant. But even that can be too much for me, and yes, I have definitely overdone it in the last few years.

Such a pleasure to be writing again. Such smoothness that thoughts just stream down and by writing it, it helps me make sense of things and get more clarity. It is emotional.

Life is short. Quite a lot of evidence of that in the recent past. My parents getting visibly older, my father, what can I say... can't put it in words. Losing everything physical, all strength, and of course with impact on the mental side. Last week, the father of a very close friend died - I hadn't spoken with her for years and years, but called her on this occasion and we had a chat. Like we had been speaking every day. It was so honest and transparent. I felt her pain, her thoughts, what she was feeling. I am so sorry for her and I see her pain. I am scared and sad that such a moment will come to me and my family.

Winding down my relationship. Broke up 9 months ago. Still not closed. Was with her yesterday. So difficult. I love her so much, and we together have had so many special things, and on top we have built a fantastic HOME together. Which is where I still live and which I haven't really changed since she left. She also hasn't wanted to move her things out yet. It is too painful. I can't bring myself to tear apart this home that we put together, I think there is some magic in it, I fear that bringing it down will remove the layer of protection that it gives me... I am scared. But I do know deep down that change brings freshness, it brings badly needed things.

The best example is on my professional life. I have worked for 17 years in one of the worlds largest multinationals. I was on the ladder, on the mouse wheel, fighting for a promotion for the last 3 or 4 years. I actually landed that promotion, only for it not too happen due to restructuring. Twice! Had external opportunities until I finally decided to leave and go for one of these. Such a hard decision, such hard times. Incredibly difficult and emotional to leave. Uncomfortable. But God I have gained from it. Incredible amounts of confidence - starting with that I can survive and dramatically thrive in other environments! Realizing actually how good I am and the strength of my background! Having others be surprised by some actions and personal touches, that went largely unnoticed in my previous organization, but are now extremely appreciated. 

the world is like this. Luck does play a huge role. While also, if you are good and practice the good, the universe does balance itself out and reward you accordingly. Same if you are bad, if you are disrespectful or mean to others, the universe pays you in kind. But opportunities extremely often do not come from extreme planning for them to come - NO. They come from us being out there, and engaging with people and the world, being out there exposing ourselves and being unconfortable - then the world throws something at you, often something fantastic, that will challenge you but is exactly what you needed, or even what you deep down wished for. But we DO need to be out there, be in the game, be exposed. Show ourselves, warts and all. Show everything we are, the good but also the weak. And by doing that, we are so much stronger. And by doing that, we can open ourselves to meeting the people we need in our lifes - people who are the same, who are authentic, who are human and who will appreciate you.